International Women’s Day is widely celebrated in Russia. But amid the bouquets of flowers and stilted speeches of congratulation made by Vladimir Putin, the state-controlled media will be doing its best to ignore one group of Russia’s women.

These are the wives of some of its soldiers fighting in Ukraine, who have embarked on a series of regular, public demonstrations that challenge the state and its narratives of societal unity around the war.

When Russia began its mass invasion of Ukraine in February 2022, it was widely expected that soldiers’ mothers would participate in public protests against the war and demand the return of their sons, as they did in Russia’s war in Chechnya in the mid-1990s. But these mothers have all but disappeared from view under increasingly harsh crackdowns on opposition to the war.


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Instead, it is soldiers’ wives who have have emerged as one of the few sources of open criticism of the state’s handling of Russia’s war in Ukraine.

The prominence of wives rather than mothers of soldiers reflects the fact the war is not being fought by conscripts in their late teens and early twenties. Instead, many of the soldiers are married men in their 30s, 40s and even 50s. These men were mobilised, as reservists, on Putin’s order in September 2022, and are serving open-ended deployments to Ukraine. These are men who previously served in the army as conscripts, aged up to about 60.

These mobilised soldiers, along with those recruited from prisons, are regarded as expendable by their military commanders. They are sent into the most dangerous combat missions, and are more likely to be injured and killed than professional soldiers, according to a BBC-Mediazona project that is attempting to track Russian casualties.

Our ongoing research suggests the main strategy that women in Russia’s military families have adopted in dealing with the state is “patriotic dissent”. Avoiding direct criticism of the war, they emphasise they are the loyal wives of men who are doing their duty for their country. They focus on trying to gain specific concessions from the state, such as periods of leave for their husbands or more extensive welfare support for military families. They also use social media, and especially Telegram, to share information including strategies for lobbying Russia’s ministry of defence.

But among the many Telegram channels set up by wives of mobilised soldiers, one called The Way Home has become the focus of more confrontational forms of protest. Angered by the announcement in autumn 2023 that mobilised soldiers would be deployed to Ukraine indefinitely, the women behind the channel decided to go beyond pleading with the state.

In November 2023, The Way Home wives issued a manifesto calling for an end to the mobilisation of civilians to fight in the “special military operation”. They also started taking their complaints beyond social media.

Some actions are relatively modest, such as putting stickers on cars calling for the return of their husbands. Others are much more difficult for the state to ignore.

Since January, small groups have gathered every Saturday to lay flowers at eternal flames around Russia, including at the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier by the Kremlin wall in Moscow. Wearing white headscarves and holding signs calling for an end to mobilisation, the wives have also urged widows of soldiers who have been killed in the war to join them.

So far, the state has ignored these demands for an end to mobilisation, and is attempting to placate the wives by expanding benefits for military families – including changing the rules to permit payments to be made to the unmarried partners of soldiers; a blatant contradiction of Putin’s emphasis on marriage and traditional family values.

Protests are broken up but when the wives are detained, they are released with a warning. However, the women are clearly coming under pressure. Some have reported police visiting their homes to warn them against protesting. They have been verbally attacked by Russian media personality Vladimir Solovyov, and Telegram has inserted a “fake” label on The Way Home channel.

Although The Way Home wives have demonstrated they are capable of holding public demonstrations that are critical of the state’s handling of the war, Russia’s political opposition has so far dismissed their potential to become a political force. Instead, the wives are described as naive for failing to oppose the war itself, and complicit because they accept – and seek – money from the state in the form of welfare benefits.

Long history of activism

This dismissive attitude towards the activism of women in military families has a long history in Russia. In 1917, women – known as soldatki (soldiers’ wives and other female family members) – played an important role in the social unrest that overturned the monarchy and paved the way for the Bolshevik revolution.

But the soldatki were patronised by both Tsarist and Soviet political leaders. Described as ignorant because they couched their demands in terms of the welfare of their families rather than in the language of political ideology, they have also been left out of most historical accounts of the revolutions in 1917.

It is important to maintain a sense of perspective about these protests. The Way Home wives represent a small subsection of the hundreds of thousands of wives and mothers of Russian soldiers fighting in Ukraine. They express strongly nationalistic views – their manifesto explicitly distances them from “migrants” and other non-Russian soldiers deployed to fight in Ukraine, as well as from prisoners. They have not voiced sorrow or regret for the thousands of Ukrainians killed and injured by Russia’s attacks.

But it would also be a mistake to overlook the significance and the political nature of these soldiers’ wives’ actions. By calling for an end to mobilisation, The Way Home wives are challenging Putin’s strategy of waging “forever war” until Moscow achieves its aims.

These women are also exercising the fundamental right of citizens to hold their government accountable for its policies – there is no more political act than this. Ultimately, women’s “patriotic dissent” is a powerful form of resistance and it must be taken seriously.

Jennifer Mathers, Senior Lecturer in International Politics, Aberystwyth University and Natasha Danilova, Senior Lecturer in Politics and International Relations, University of Aberdeen. This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.

35 COMMENTS

  1. Putin may be doing another recruitment drive. If the West cannot supply enough ammunition, then the war may end within the next 12 months in a Russian victory. Check out Michael Koffman with the War on the Rocks podcast.

    I do not understand how the combined West is failing to provide enough shells to the Ukrainians. Why is this not an international scandal?

    • Well, it is a combination of things. Many countries have supplied large amounts of shells but now need to replenish stocks with a manufacturing base not geared up for war. The US has plenty but the Republicans refuse to allow anymore aid to flow to Ukraine unless they get loads of money for a stupid border wall in order to keep fuelling their conspiracy theories.

      Trump has now said that his plan for peace is to just let Russia win (yep his single brain cell is working overtime).

      Now I would argue that we should always have a plan to ramp up production of critical supplies. But when you have a bunch of MPs who prefer arguing with each other over divisive issues and peddling conspiracy theories rather than actually do anything to run the country then it is not surprising we are not prepared. The single person that actually had an idea on how to represent the MOD was only in the job for a few years and his replacement probably struggles to do his own shoelaces up…

      • I think you’re mistaken on the border wall. The money and material was largely allocated. The issue is, Biden has, arbitrarily, decided to stop construction, sell off existing materials, attempt to reallocate funds, fail to repair damage, and encourage migrants to flow in, illegally. Just as he, arbitrarily, chose to pull out of Afghanistan without notifying allies. Which , many would say was the signal Putin was waiting for. I would argue Republicans should fund the situation in Ukraine, and, the two issues should be decoupled. On the other hand, Biden has been resolute about sending Ukraine the aid they need twelve months after they needed it. Not to mention, when he was VP, the administration sent no lethal aid.

        • Why would he send lethal aid when he was VP? No one was saying they would do that back then… Not sure what that really has do do with the current situation. Trump has said he wants peace by letting Russia win… Is that really helpful? As for the border wall, trump managed to build a total of 80 miles of new wall… Funding was not approved so he basically diverted it from the defence budget so I am not surprised if Biden cancelled that. So Biden might have arbitrarily cancelled funding of the wall but Trump arbitrarily allocated the funding in the first place… But then I thought Trump was going to make Mexico pay for it..?

          Non of this has anything to do with Ukraine though. Apart from that the republican speaker of the house appears to be a very odd person willing to risk millions of deaths in order to try to win a willy waiving contest… It is pathetic.

          • Bloomberg Law, March 2024. “ The Biden administration can’t redirect $1.4 billion that Congress allocated for the construction of a wall at the Mexican border, a Trump-appointed federal judge said, handing a win to Texas in the state’s deepening feud with the federal government on immigration.”

            Also, Many republicans were calling for lethal aid when Crimea was invaded.

        • You want the USA to payroll the Ukrainians, but simply ignore their own invasion from the southern (Mexican) border?
        • On matters Trump – he’s far ahead in the polls on the way to victory . . . !
        • If you think the Tories are bad, and they are, Labour will be worse. Yes, Ben Wallace had a grip, but he’s had enough. Funding for the military under Labour will be no better. The UK needs a change from the two big parties – go figure.

        The solution to Russia / Ukraine / Crimea and the two Oblasts? Follow the example of Israel, let’s have a proper clean-up within Europe too, the sooner the better. The Russians are on the backfoot.

        • With regard to the US border. The republicans just voted down the strictest border rules so far. They did so because they did not want the Democrats to be able to say they did that…

          As for Trump being far ahead in the polls… In the latest figures it seems that Biden is very slightly ahead.

          Plus Trump is about to be made bankrupt due to his constant lies and fraud. Turns out he is nowhere near as rich as he claims he is (I know – shock!) I mean this is a man who would have made more money just putting his inheritance in a bank account than he has with his business genius… The only reason he has any money left at all is due to him consistently stealing it from other people along with his fraudulent activities.

          As for Labour… I am under no illusion that they will be any better than what we have right now. However they are not likely to be worse, so it is worth a try… Yes we do need a third political party that can deliver votes in the centre as a balancing tool.

  2. The war will end with a Russian “victory”. They will simply outlast the Ukrainians. They will have hollowed out their military and lost a good chunk of their male population but they will retain hold of what they currently have and then use that as a base for future operations against Ukraine.

    • As you say, hostilities will probably end with territorial gains for Russia. We have to face the fact that the west was too late to support Ukraine: no reaction to Russian influence in Syria, no reaction to Crimea, too late with tanks, F-16s, armoured vehicles…the list goes on. Frankly we screwed up and Ukraine has paid and will pay the price. We should be ashamed.
      When hostilies end the least we can do is make we rebuild and re-arm Ukraine put in place defence pacts / treaties between UK and France/Germany/ EU and between the UK and EU and Ukraine so that the EU and the UK can put boots on Ukrainian soil. This must happen to deter further Russian ambitions from day 1 of the peace. We cannot wait for Ukraine to go through application process to the EU and /or NATO.

      • I very much doubt the West will have the political balls to put forces into Ukraine after the war is “over”. I don’t believe that the war will ever end. It will transform into a low-level conflict for a few years until Russia is ready to go again. The issue for the future may well be the election of a nationalist government in Ukraine that may put off a lot of Western support. The only hope for Ukraine is that they can continue without heavy reliance on the US and Europe.

        • Our continuing support for Ukraine is necessary if we want to prevent a ‘nationalist’ government. Such governments tend to come to power when populations are infected with fear. The Ukrainians have courage and we must not pull the rug from under them. That would be a betrayal. That said we must all be realistic.

          • Sadly it’s more than that, we don’t support Ukraine and if the west is seen to loss another war we will probably be having a world war within the decade.

          • I’m not so sure. I just watched Putin on the TV talking about how Russia will use nukes to defend Russia etc….pre-election talk. Some interesting things….firstly he looked to me like he is on steroids – he has the uber-healthy glowing Madam Tussaud look about him. His lip movements looked robotic and his face looks swollen. I think he is seriously ill. Secondly Ukraine has used drones to take out a couple of oil refineries…these will hurt Russia.

      • I’m worried that Russia will take over enough of Ukraine for there to be no point in rearming them. A thin 20-mile wide strip between Russia and NATO may be all that will be left.

        • Hopefully they can be held at something like the current lines. EU production of artillery shells is getting to where it needs to be; the F-16s will help as will Germany’s agreement to sell Taurus to the UK so that we can give more Storm Shadows to Ukraine. The pivotal item is the US aid package which is held up by the Republicans. If all these happen I think Ukraine can survive to beyond the US elections and Putin’s re-election. If Kyiv remains as capital of a free Ukraine I would regard that as defeat for Putin.

          • Olaf Scholz has confirmed today that there will be no deals involving Taurus Missiles – and the F16 won’t be the silver bullet that people are expecting,they might have 6 operational by July and that is being optomistic.

          • Disappointing to hear that news on Taurus; yesterday’s news was hopeful. So it’s looking like the next 6 months will be difficult.

      • If the war ends on Russias terms it will be with Russia in charge in Ukraine. Then it will role into Moldova. Ukrainians will be collectively killed and punished for not supporting Russia.

        • Well yes. But that result is not inevitable.
          If hostilities were to end today Russia would have made gains in the east and a land corridor to Crimea. But she will have sustained huge losses – without gaining Kyiv or Odesa.
          The key element of any negotiated settlement would be that Russia recognizes Ukraine as a sovereign nation with the right to host EU and UK troops on its soil. Exchange of embassies etc

  3. Economically, Ukraine being bankrolled by a collection of 40-50 friendly nations, each contributing a relatively small portion of their own wealth, should be able to outlast Russia which is spending a very large portion of its wealth on the war effort and doing so almost entirely on its own.

    Even if Russia is able to grind its way forward and claim more land like it has done at Avdiikva this year and Bakhmut last year, this still represents quite minor gains. Barring some catastrophe on the battlefield for Ukraine, I think the clock is ticking against Russia if Ukraine continues to resist and the West steps up.

    • The Russians can’t replace high-end kit that was the product of the Soviet era, or dependent on Western parts. They can build lower-end equipment or refurbish museum-pieces from their reserves. This will work- as long as they accept that the trade-off is a larger death-toll on their side. Presumably the Russian doctrine of ‘throw people at the obstacle until it is overwhelmed’, still holds, though with an (ageing) population of 143 million, versus the 290 million that the Soviet Union could call on, I suspect that they’ll eventually run out of manpower.

      • As the War drags on don’t forget that Russia has worked out what systems work and which don’t.Their production efforts will be concentrated based on this.It’s unlikely that Russia will run out of manpower,Ukraine has a population of about 1/3rd of Russia’s ,they will struggle with numbers first.

      • unfortunately that’s not completely true, Russia is now churning out 90 T90 tanks per month…that’s about 1000 modern MBTs a year..there production is now over its loss rate….and its modern MBT is now back as its standard MBT..you can see that by the loss rate..almost all losses are now T90s. They have removed western components from the production and are using components from other sources.

        ukraine will run out of manpower before Russia…yes the west has embargoed Russia but that has less meaning than it once has as china, Iran, India etc have not embargoed Russia and have essentially told the west to jog on.

        • I saw that the loss rates for tanks that roughly 50% were T62 produced in 1963 onwards with little or no upgrades. I will do some checking around.

          • Looking at June 23 around 66.6% were T80 T90, losses 5% were T55,T62,T64 losses and 28.3 T72 losses….the last figures I saw was Oct and it was all T72 to T90 losses. Russia now has 2 factories one producing T72 and T90 and one T80s.

  4. we really need to end this war through negotiation. Thousands of innocent men, women are children are being killed and what for the Bidens?

    • Why ask here what for? Putin has made it clear that it’s to denazify Ukraine. For the avoidance of doubt, that’s the country run by a Russophone, Jewish, former comic actor, rather than the one run by the Russophone, former KGB liaison to the Stasi, who reportedly recruited neo-Nazis

      Nothing to do with Biden at all. Nothing to do with “we” either. So it’s hard to know why or how “we” need to end it. Unless you are Russian, of course. In which case, yes, you need to end it by leaving Ukraine. I’m not sure what negotiations need to be had. Russia just needs to pack up and go.

    • Ok then, what does peace look like through your eyes?
      I know what putin is doing and I’ve heard what Ukraines position is.

    • When has Russia actually kept to ANY agreements made over Ukraine? Any deal will only let Pootin rearm and go again in a couple of years! On the plus side it would allow Ukraine time to rearm and prepare itself for what it will know would be coming.

  5. Unfortunately it’s looking like the west is now slowly or not so slowly folding under political pressure and the likely outcome is that Ukraine will not get the support it needs..I can see an armistice in Russias favour within a year unless the political situation in the west changes dramatically.

    This is profoundly important stuff..as I I have said a number of times china thinks it can win a war with the west over Taiwan due to the wests susceptibly to political warfare and a failure of political will to fight…it’s not just about Putin and him winning in Ukraine and then his follow-up move ( that will happen ) it’s about china then solidifying it’s plan to attack Taiwan and the world war that will follow..the west has shown its ongoing ability to loss the long war..if it losses Ukraine it will likely be in a fight for its dominance within the decade.

    • If the U.K. actually properly stepped up with lend/lease at levels actually needed other countries follow.
      There should be production to match Russia. It should be over match.

      • Yes indeed the west could easily overmatch Russian production into Ukraine…but sadly political will is as always the wests weakness.

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